This article discusses the reflection of a young man who was raised by a strict Vietnamese
immigrant father. This story presents the common theme of the different understandings and
perspectives between immigrant parents and their children. This difference in their views is due to
different environments, upbringings, and norms of their different lifetimes. These differences are
considered in a sense cultural differences as the sons and daughters of immigrants create their
own hybrid culture with a mix of the American culture and their ethnic culture. I can relate to
this concept because my father is a strict and extremely traditional man especially when it
comes to relationships. Growing up, I saw my fellow classmates and friends start dating in
middle school and high school. This was considered a norm in my youth community. In my
middle school and early high school years, I never mentioned anything about boys to my dad
because I knew he would disapprove of any dating. My father doesn't believe in dating in
high school because he doesn't see those relationships as anything serious. He thinks you
should date people you know you will have a long relationship with and can potentially
marry in the future. In my sophomore year of high school, I started dating my current
boyfriend. I told my dad about him and he instantly was uncomfortable with the idea
especially because my boyfriend is 2 years older than I am. But one thing that I have learned
being raised by my parents is that though our views can be different, personally my parents
can be understanding and willing to be open minded if you explain your point of view to them.
So I had long talk with my father about this relationship. At first he was still doubtful and
reluctant but over time my boyfriend and my dad actually became very close. Still to this day
my dad still has some concerns but is more comfortable with me dating than before.
immigrant father. This story presents the common theme of the different understandings and
perspectives between immigrant parents and their children. This difference in their views is due to
different environments, upbringings, and norms of their different lifetimes. These differences are
considered in a sense cultural differences as the sons and daughters of immigrants create their
own hybrid culture with a mix of the American culture and their ethnic culture. I can relate to
this concept because my father is a strict and extremely traditional man especially when it
comes to relationships. Growing up, I saw my fellow classmates and friends start dating in
middle school and high school. This was considered a norm in my youth community. In my
middle school and early high school years, I never mentioned anything about boys to my dad
because I knew he would disapprove of any dating. My father doesn't believe in dating in
high school because he doesn't see those relationships as anything serious. He thinks you
should date people you know you will have a long relationship with and can potentially
marry in the future. In my sophomore year of high school, I started dating my current
boyfriend. I told my dad about him and he instantly was uncomfortable with the idea
especially because my boyfriend is 2 years older than I am. But one thing that I have learned
being raised by my parents is that though our views can be different, personally my parents
can be understanding and willing to be open minded if you explain your point of view to them.
So I had long talk with my father about this relationship. At first he was still doubtful and
reluctant but over time my boyfriend and my dad actually became very close. Still to this day
my dad still has some concerns but is more comfortable with me dating than before.
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